p.43 Too many people fear that after someone opens up his life, their responsibility is to rush in and somehow give answers or solutions to what the other person faces. And so we shoot from the hip, 'okay, thanks for sharing that with me. Now here is what you need to think..here is what you need to believe...here is what you need to do...
SUCH RESPONSES CRUSH OPENNESS.
p.45That means when your friend opens up her life to you, first respond by simply appreciating her openness as an invitation to share your lives together.. You say, "Thank you for trusting me with that I appreciate you being vulnerable. I'm glad to get to know you a little more deeply" This affirms that her openness has not chased you away, but that you are moving toward her while she is moving toward you.
Thirdly, make sure at some point to ask, 'where is Jesus involved?' Ask this even if you're not sure what the answer is. Sometimes I have to add, "I don't know where he is, but I do know that we need to look for him. What do you think he is doing? By asking the question, your're helping her think about where the next steps are on her journey with the Lord through life.
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